Twin Flame Runner Chaser Phase
The twin flame runner chaser phase is the most painful but transforming stage of the twin flame journey. Most twin flames will experience the twin flame runner chaser dynamic on some level. This phase usually leads to twin flame separation, lasting for days, months, or even years.
Twin flames share the same energetic frequency. However, one twin flame will have more masculine energy, and the other will have more feminine energy. This is not gender-specific. A man can have dominant feminine energy, and a woman can have dominant masculine energy.
Each energy is the opposite end of the whole, creating a perfect mirror. Although their love is the same, each twin will experience the connection differently.
There is instant recognition and an intense magnetic bond when twin flames meet. A feeling of closeness and oneness. Both twins will feel extreme love and compassion, unlike anything they have ever felt before. They can’t stop thinking about each other, crave each other’s energy, and have an uncontrollable desire to be together.
Every twin flame relationship will have different circumstances. One or both twins may already be married or in a relationship. There may be a significant age gap, a cultural difference, or geographical distance. Many different circumstances can make this connection challenging from the very beginning.
Regardless of the circumstances, they will come together in some way. This may be an online connection, a friendship, or an actual physical and sexual relationship. Both twins share intense feelings of unconditional love, passion, and desire for one another, no matter what form the connection takes initially.
Divine Masculine
The love is so powerful that one twin flame, usually the twin that carries the masculine energy, gets overwhelmed and runs from the connection igniting the twin flame runner chaser phase.
Remember, energy is not gender-specific. The masculine energy can be a man or a woman. However, to simplify, we will refer to the masculine energy as he/him/his and the feminine energy as she/her/hers.
The masculine twin flame has many fears when it comes to this connection. The runner fears the intensity of the love. He fears that the connection is moving too quickly. He fears that the Universe is playing a trick on him because the love seems too good to be true. The runner fears sacrificing the comfort of his current life for this love.
There are many other fears that he experiences. Instead of facing his fears, he runs. The masculine becomes the twin flame ‘runner.’ He may distance himself from the connection by blocking, ghosting, or ignoring his twin. He may run emotionally by shutting down, not communicating his feelings, or lying about how he feels. One way or another, he will reject the connection in some way.
Often the twin flame runner will focus all his attention on another relationship. He may develop addictions, unhealthy behaviors, or consume himself in his work. This is all to distract himself from the overwhelming love he feels for his twin flame and push away the painful wounds coming up for healing.
Divine Feminine
On the other hand, the twin who carries the feminine energy is willing to risk it all. The divine feminine is usually the more spiritually mature twin flame. She knows that this connection is divine. The divine feminine is ready to take a leap of faith for this love. She wants this relationship and will do anything to get it.
She will even risk her dignity and self-respect in the name of unconditional love. When the twin flame runner runs, she is left feeling confused and heartbroken. She thinks if she shows him unconditional love, he will come back to her. She becomes the twin flame ‘chaser’. The chaser can’t move on. She can’t let go. She needs answers. The more she chases, the more he runs.
The Twin Flame Runner’s Journey
The twin flame runner believes he’s doing good in life. He is happy and content. He may go from one unfulfilling relationship to another, never feeling satisfied. Or he may be in a loveless marriage or long-term relationship. Either way, he is in his comfort zone and in control.
When the runner meets his twin flame, his entire reality changes, he is forced to see himself for the first time.
Twin flames are perfect mirrors. They reflect back to each other, their unique qualities and gifts, and their deepest insecurities, wounds, and fears.
The runner has been through tremendous heartache and trauma from past relationships and old childhood wounds.
He has learned to suppress his trauma, ignore it, and hide it. He has built up walls around his heart to protect himself from love.
The Runner feels Love
The love he feels for his twin flame causes the walls around his heart to come down, and his heart begins to open up. He feels overwhelming love and compassion. The twin flame chaser is everything he desires. He has never felt passion like this before.
He is attracted to her spiritually, emotionally, and physically. She is beautiful inside and out. He is mesmerized by her.
The runner loves the way the chaser looks, how she walks, talks, hair, eyes, and smile, and he loves her confidence.
He admires her and feels inspired by her. She is his muse, his guide, and she is his light. He puts her on a pedestal, not realizing that the beauty he sees in her is also within him.
In his eyes, she is perfect and perfectly made just for him, and this scares him. She seems too good to be true, which causes him extreme anxiety and fear.
The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is fear.
The Runner feels Fear
All of the runner’s suppressed pain begins to reveal itself. His wounds are brought to the surface for healing, making him feel highly vulnerable and out of control.
He is afraid of everything, and his fears paralyze him. His insecurities are heightened like never before. Although he desires love, he fears love, especially this twin flame love.
His core wounds are fear of rejection and fear of abandonment. These deep-seated wounds are usually a result of some childhood trauma.
These wounds impact how he deals with people and how he sees himself. They prevent him from getting close to others, especially his twin flame.
The runner fears intimacy. He is afraid that if he lets his twin flame get too close and see who he is, she will not love the real him.
The runner fears commitment. He is afraid that if he commits, he will be left alone.
The runner fears being vulnerable. He believes vulnerability is weak. He fears being taken advantage of and that people will see him as a fool.
The runner fears inadequacy. He doesn’t believe he is good enough for his twin flame. He doesn’t think he is worthy of love.
The runner fears losing control. His ego requires him to control everything in his life, and he fears if he gives in to this love, he will lose control.
He fears that he will lose himself and his identity to this connection.
The Runner runs
The runner is not prepared to handle what this connection demands of him.
Instead of facing his fears, he runs from the connection. He believes it’s the connection causing him pain. He associates the pain he is feeling with the chaser. The runner does not run from the chaser. He runs from himself. Since he doesn’t feel worthy of this love, he rejects the love and the connection before his twin flame can reject him.
The depth of his fears causes him to hide his true self and wear a mask in the connection. He pretends he doesn’t care. He hides his true feelings. The runner blocks, he ignores, and ghosts the chaser. He lies about his feelings and treats her like she doesn’t matter to him. He may act differently or even say cruel things to the chaser to push her away.
The runner feels completely different and in control in other relationships. These other people are not his perfect mirror, so he is not required to face himself. These relationships are easy and safe. Therefore, he may continue in his current relationship no matter how unhappy he is, gets back with an ex, or even starts a brand-new relationship.
If he doesn’t consume himself in another relationship, he will use several other excuses to reject the connection. Either way, he will run, which makes him feel in control again.
When the chaser stops chasing
Eventually, the chaser will stop chasing, and separation will occur. When the chaser pulls away and stops contacting the runner, he will initially feel relief.
But he quickly realizes that he can’t stop thinking about his twin flame. He feels her and desires her more than ever before. He misses her energy and the attention she gave him.
This causes him to go into intense soul shock. An overwhelming feeling of isolation and sadness leads to a deep dark spiritual depression, a dark night of the soul. He will feel hopeless and disconnected from Source.
Without his twin flame, he feels lost and empty. He also understands that he is the cause of the separation, which leads to more feelings of unworthiness and regret. He may turn to his addictions, but nothing can fill the void of emptiness that his twin flame has left in his soul. Now that his insecurities and wounds have been revealed, he can no longer hide. He can’t go back to who he was before.
Although his soul craves to be close to his twin flame and to feel her energy, he cannot move forward in the connection until he fully heals. Until he can heal and face himself, he is content with loving her from afar.
The love is too powerful to let go, but the pain is too devastating to move forward. He is stuck. He must find the strength to pull himself out of the darkness and into the love that awaits him.
The Runners healing
The twin flame runner loves the chaser profoundly, but it’s his battle that he is fighting within. A battle between his fears which are driven by his ego, and love which is his true divine nature, his soul.
Pain and struggle are a part of the twin flame runner’s journey to becoming the divine masculine. This is his path to awakening. This is how he grows and matures spiritually.
As he slowly pulls himself out of the darkness, he will discover his true authentic self as an eternal divine being. The runner will awaken, and he will transform. He’ll begin to see the world and himself from a different perspective. He will see life through the eyes of love and not fear.
As he heals, he will find wholeness and learn how to love himself unconditionally. This will end the twin flame runner chaser phase as he reunites with his feminine and moves closer to union.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi